My post last week discussed TV shows that are appropriate for girls at specific ages. Keeping with the girl theme I would like to write about an article that I read in the Huffington Post called, “What Little Girls Wish Daddies Knew”.
This article really made me think about my relationship with both my son and my daughter. The author made so many great points that I had to pause and think about how I am raising my children. Am I gender stereotyping? Do I only do certain things with my son and not my daughter? Do I encourage my daughter the same way that I encourage my son? So many questions! So many great thinking points! So what am I doing right or wrong?
8. When your tone is gentle, I understand what you are saying much better.
Wow! This one practically slapped me across the face and I wish it didn’t. Not only do I understand this, I hope others practice this when talking to me.
13. Teach me a love of art, science, and nature, and I will learn that intellect matters more than dress size.
If this one was measured on a scale from 1-10, I say turn it up to 11! If there is anything that I want to have my daughter feel comfortable with it is her physical appearance. I was never the most successful science student but I will encourage my daughter to develop a love or at least an appreciation for science. For my daughter, art and nature come naturally and that is largely due to a pre-primary education.
19. When you let me help fix the car and paint the house, I will believe I can do anything a boy can do.
This one speaks for itself. I absolutely do not want my daughter to back down from a challenge. Each day when I drop my daughter off at her classroom, I encourage her to ask a lot of questions. Challenges need to be met with some level of understanding.
17. When I ask you to let go, please remain available; I will always come back and need you if you do.
Absolutely the hardest part of parenting, in my opinion, has been letting go. Distancing myself and not immediately intervening when my daughter is being challenged, or is taking a risk, is a very hard thing to do.
I am hoping that you take some time to read the rest of the article. I found it to be very interesting and thought provoking. If nothing else, the article will make me think twice the next time I am frustrated, am encouraging new learning or watching my children take risks.